Money Talks: The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage.

By Jennie Blizzard

As a child, you’ve most likely heard it. If you’re a parent, you’ve most
likely said it: money doesn’t grow on trees. And while the long standing
common sense saying holds true, parents do have the ability to pass
along financial knowledge that can bear good fruit throughout a child’s
life. Scott and Bethany Palmer can tell you how.

Widely respected and known as the Money Couple and as financial
experts, the Palmers have spent a decade helping couples divorce proof
their marriages over money through books, coaching and various resour-
ces. And now as co-authors of the best selling read The Five Money Per-
sonalities, they have formulated a brand new resource for parents in their
newly released book, The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids
at Every Age and Stage.

“It’s very interesting for the past 10 years, we’ve been helping couples
make their relationships great by helping them to discover why they view
and look at money differently,” said Scott. “We were doing a great job
working with couples and getting them on the same page about money
but we really weren’t doing the greatest job with helping our own kids
understand money.”

The Palmers weren’t alone. After conversations with other parents, a well-
known fact was confirmed. They were all worried about raising entitled,
materialistic, and financially dependent kids. “Because that was a concern
of ours, we said we needed to come up with a new way for parents to think
and talk to their kids about money,” said Scott. “And that’s how we came
up with and wrote the book.”

The Five Money Conversations gives practical advice and emphasizes that
in order to teach a child about money, you must first know his or her
money personality (spender, saver, risk taker, flyer and security seeker).
“What’s interesting is that everyone has two of the five money personali-
ties and a lot of times people stop at their first one,” said Bethany. “Most
of us can assess our primary one. But the secondary one is so crucial.”
She adds that the secondary money personality can be completely opposite
of the primary. “It’s the dynamic of the two that makes you unique, special
and different,” Bethany says.

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In addition to identifying the personality, Bethany says that parents must
also understand that most of the time, their outlook about money will
differ from their kids, thus creating the potential for conflict. She shares
an example from her own family where her mother’s primary money
personality was a saver and the secondary was a security seeker. Betha-
ny’s primary is a spender and secondary is a risk taker. “We have the
same thing with both of our sons,” said Bethany. “One of the reasons
that learning money personalities is so important is because we need
to learn how to speak in a way that they can hear us and learn our chil-
dren’s personalities so they can actually understand and be parented
about the positive sides of these differences.”

The money personality assessment, available online, was developed pri-
marily through the Palmers’ 10 years of research working with couples
and with the help of a statistical scientist at Stanford. The Palmers were
able to take their scientific tool, which has been taken by over 60,000
people and modify it for kids. There’s an assessment for ages 5-12, 13-17,
and 18 and beyond to help them figure out their primary and secondary
money personalities. “For ages 5-12, this may take you sitting down with
your child and taking the quiz together,” said Scott. “But let them drive
the car and answer the questions. It takes less than 10 minutes.”

For parents of teens or adult children and think it’s too late to have “the
big talk” about finances? It’s never too late. “The great thing about this
book is that you have the opportunity to jump in at any age or stage,”
said Scott. “There are going to be some parents whose kids are in college
and they’re saying “oh my goodness, my kids are totally financially depen-
dent on me. How are we going to start to change that?”’

Scott warns parents that these conversations are not as simple as discus-
sing a 12-point budget and convincing your child to stick to the plan to be
financially successful. The Five Conversations guides parents on how to
have discussions and gain some wins that establish trust before jumping
into the budget. “Our youngest is a primary spender and is a secondary
security seeker,” said Bethany. “If I understand that about my child and
I learn how to talk to him in a language that he’s going to understand
by calling a budget a spending plan, then he’s going to see me as a re-
source and someone he wants to talk to about present and future
money challenges.”

The Palmers stress important points to remember when having this much-
needed conversation. First, understanding your child’s money personality
is crucial. Second realizing that it’s not just one conversation but a lifetime
of evolving talks as the child transitions to different ages and stages. The
third is patience. “They are not going to see the money and deal with it
the same way as you do,” said Scott. “But if you have these money con-
versations you will be amazed at what you can teach them, point out and
help them with.”

In addition to patience, Bethany advises parents to not “shame” their
child about their money personality. For example if a child is a primary
spender and secondary risk taker, don’t focus on how they like to spend
money, encourage him/her to use their personalities for the greater good.
For instance, encourage the risk taker to use his/her money personality
to start a business. “One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is
teaching them how to think about money,” says Bethany, “and teaching
them how to view it through their lens in a healthy way.”

For more information about Scott and Bethany Palmer, visit
www.themoneycouple.com.

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Get great advice: Get Financially Fettered!

By Alanna Klapp

Financial challenges affect all ages. College graduates employed
at entry-level jobs are now saddled with 1.2 trillion dollars in out-
standing student loans. The typical U.S. household, while earning
an average salary of $60K per year, is faced with credit card debt,
student loans, and an overall lack of savings. Baby Boomers still
reeling from the impact of the Great Recession and wiped-out nest
eggs and retirement savings are now finding new ways to re-invent
themselves and extend their working years. Whichever your situa-
tion, Lynnette Khalfani-Cox, The Money Coach, has advice for you.
Her latest book, Perfect Credit: 7 Steps to a Great Credit Rating,
is a must-read for people who want to establish, fix, improve, or
maintain credit. Along with her sound financial advice, Lynnette’s
mission is to give people hope and inspiration. In a recent interview,
she shared that 99.9% of the time people can recover from things
that have gone wrong financially in their lives, whether it be a
mistake or an unforeseen event. “It’s not the end of the world,
it’s not fate, and it’s not a permanent financial death sentence,”
Khalfani-Cox explains. “It will get better if you take some steps.”
Here she shares a few of the steps below.

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Lynnette’s Advice

For the Recently Employed College Graduate

•    Be realistic about starting salaries and expenses, including
student loans. A huge pitfall college grads face is overestimating
starting salaries and underestimating expenses once they get into
the real world. Take a hard look at your student loans and create
a strategic payoff plan that’s done as quickly as possible. Don’t wait
to start aggressively paying off student loans. Double the minimum
payments if you can afford it, or add to the minimum monthly payment.

•    Keep the spending in check. Make some sacrifices to be able to
put more money towards student loans. Don’t be ashamed to tell
your friends you can’t afford a trip or a dinner out. “You can’t say
yes to everything because you don’t have an infinite amount of
money,” Lynnette says.

•    Start saving and investing now. Save something rather than
nothing, even if it’s just $25 a paycheck. You’ll develop disci-
pline and over time, even small amounts of money can amass
and become large sums because of the power of compounded
interest. Make sure to take advantage of your employer-
sponsored retirement savings plan, such as a 401K or a
403B program.

For the Working Joe and/or Jane with Kids

•    Avoid the credit card debt trap. If you’re in credit card debt,
create a strategic payoff plan.

•    Regular savings is critical. Lynnette recommends three types
of savings accounts for working moms and dads:

1. Rainy day fund: cash needed for one-time, unforeseen events
such as the car or the washing machine breaking down.

2. Emergency fund: enough cash on hand to cover your living
expenses for 3-6 months in case of a long-term major life
disruption such as a job loss. For example, if your bills are
$2500 a month, you should have $7500 or more in this account.

3. College fund: such as a 529 plan, a state-sponsored college
savings vehicle where you can save money and invest in mutual
funds over time.

•    Use financial windfalls properly. Set aside a portion of your
income tax refund to build any of the three funds above.

•    Max out your retirement plan in 2014. Increase your contri-
butions gradually, add money back to your paycheck by adjusting
your tax withholdings at work, use your raise, and make sacrifices.
Scale back eating out and look at savvy ways to cut costs.

For the Baby Boomer

•    Rethink the impact of adult children and grandchildren on
your finances. Don’t be a victim of a financially abusive relation-
ship, which occurs anytime someone you know, trust, or love
takes economic advantage of you.

•    Plan for things that can wipe out retirement savings, such
as an accident, illness, or an aging parent’s expenses. Health
and disability insurance can be helpful here.

•    Make sure you have a will. Direct and protect your assets.
Name a guardian or custodian if you have minor-age children.

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An award-winning financial news journalist, sought
after financial expert and radio personality, Lynnette
Khalfani-Cox has appeared on such national TV pro-
grams as The Oprah Winfrey Show, Dr. Phil, Good
Morning America and Dr. Oz sharing her success
story and teaching millions about proper money
management and how to get out of debt and
eliminate their debt.

Also known as The Money Coach®, Lynnette has
authored numerous books, including the New York
Times bestseller Zero Debt: The Ultimate Guide to
Financial Freedom. Her latest book, Perfect Credit:
7 Steps to a Great Credit Rating, is a must-read
for people who want to establish, fix, improve, or
maintain credit. She’s currently working on her next
book, due out later this year, on how to save for a
college education without going broke.

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Wealth Accumulation

You first learn to survive, then you learn to prosper.

by Jeffrey Whaley

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You should know where you are starting from on your journey to wealth accumulation.

Start with a net worth analysis. You add up all you assets less your liabilities. This will give you a starting point on your road to a better life. Once you know where you are starting from now you can decide how to budget better, and save.

Without a basic understanding of how to budget, and save, you will never get to invest.

I hear people say they do not budget. You may not have a written budget, but you definitely should have at least a mental budget in your head.

A budget is the marching orders for your money. You are telling your money where

to go in order to cover monthly expenses, and be able to save for the unexpected.

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After you have saved a minimum $1000, for the unexpected, along with 3 month of leaving expense, you are now ready to start on the road to wealth accumulation by investing the rest in a 401k at work, mutual funds, index funds, ETFs, or my personal favorite real estate.

Based on the book the millionaire next door, by Thomas J. Stanley, and William D Danko. there are three type of wealth accumulators,

PAWs (Prestigious Accumulators of Wealth) – You accumulate twice the wealth formula

AAWs (Average Accumulators of Wealth) – You accumulate at or above the amount in the wealth formula.

UAWs (Under Accumulators of Wealth) – You accumulate half or lower the wealth formula.

How wealthy should you be?

Multiply your age times your realized pretax annual household income from all sources except inheritances. Divide by ten. This is what your net wealth should be.

Leroy the bus driver is 50 years old, earns $110,00 a year, and has investments that return another $10,000, he would multiply $120,000 by 50. That equals $6,000.000.

Divided my 10 equals $600,000. So a PAW would have $1,200,000, or trice the AAW, and the UAW would have $300,000 or half the AAW or lower.

This formula is mainly of people 40 years or older. So if you are in your 20s or 30s don’t despair. Most people don’t reach these number until their 40s or 50s. The idea is to stay clear of things that rob you of your wealth like credit card debt, buying high-end clothing, cars, and homes. Your best investment starting out is investing in your self. Improving how you think, and adjusting your philosophy when it comes to money.